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Hi Kimberly,
Guys are as quick as girls to smell “neediness”. This might seem a little to harsh to you, but the fact is that you are doing, all that you are doing, only to get his approval and love. That’s just plain neediness. Once you start seeking love from a person, you become needy. It’s one thing to love and a totally different thing to “seek” love. People who seek love always have a “lower” value in the relationship, because their neediness becomes evident.
You are giving him money, you agree to have sex with him whenever he wants and you “call” him all the time. The question is why do you do this? Is it because you love him or because you are afraid of losing him? The answer is evident if you are honest with yourself. You are just afraid of losing him, that’s the reason why you have not broken up with him in spite of knowing that he “goes around” with other girls. So you are willing to get exploited, to make sure he does not leave you.
The guy is totally not at fault here. May be being a playboy is his nature or may be he really doesn’t care for love and is more interest in sex and other pleasures. Whatever be the case, his nature is “his” nature; you can’t control it or complain about it. If you don’t like the way he is, you always have the choice of moving out.
It’s quite the wrong question to ask, why does he go off and try to see other girls even when I absolutely do everything for him? He does it because he doesn’t care much for your feelings, neither is he emotionally attached to you. You cannot expect a guy to be in love with you just because you do absolutely everything for him. That’s not how a relationship ever works.
You will get exploited in any relationship you enter into, because you are seeking love and approval of others. You have to learn to become totally independent and stand alone first before you can have a fulfilling relationship. Independent people never get exploited and usually end up in healthy relationships. Stop craving love and just be comfortable with being alone for while. You have to learn to love yourself first.
Guys usually lose interest in a girl who is “too” willing to satisfy them. It would show that the girl is totally hooked. There is no need for any manipulation, what’s needed is that you take full responsibility for yourself. Stop asking yourself why your boyfriend is cheating on you, the more important question is why are you putting up with it? Stop seeking approval of your boyfriend by satisfying all his whims and fancies, that’s not going to keep him in the relationship.
This is true for both guys and girls, if you are “needy” you will suffer. Craving love is the worst form of dependence, and it opens channels for exploitation. The one who cares less in a relationship, dominates it. Be willing to stand alone, and don’t worry about “getting” loved. Don’t let anyone exploit you in anyway. You are not obliged to anyone and neither do you have to seek anyone’s approval or love; as a human being you came to this world alone and you have all the resources to stay happy within yourself. If someone loves you, that’s good, and if you love that someone, that’s good too, but don’t ever try to “seek” love from anyone.
Your boyfriend has lost interest in you because you are so ready to satisfy him all the time. You are so needy of his attention and approval. He knows that you won’t leave him even if he insulted, or used you, in anyway. The blatant manner in which he is flirting, and carrying on affairs, with other girls, in your presence, just shows how badly he is treating you. But it’s not his fault, he is just doing what he thinks is right. If you are suffering, it’s totally because you have allowed yourself to suffer.
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hey girl, I will point this out although everything that has been said in this article is perfect to a point; but look at it this way as well. If your are still interested in making this work, just an idea; guys like challenges as childish as it may seem we like something to work for as pointed out. If you submit there's no fun in it for us so we grow bored as Shallow as it seems.
Don't call him for a while, let him come to you. If he asks for sex, say you are not in the mood. Things like that make him work for what he's getting and if he Doesn't come back then well it won't work out. If it's meant to be it will happen when you least expect it.
I have found I have been in realtionships like that with Women and that Personally I didn't know what to think when I got in one with the sweetest most loving woman I have ever had the pleasure of meeting in my life and trust me, when you get in one you will wonder why You ever even thought about that guy or wonder why it was all give on your part and take on his part (I met my darling angel in the most unexpected place).
So Stop Pushing it so hard. You have a lot of time left in life so stop wasting it trying to please others and make yourself happy first If your not happy with the realtionship or how he is, it will never work or you will be miserable the rest of your life and everyone Deserves to be happy. God bless.