How to Tell if a Guy Likes You Just As A Friend, or Wants to be Something More?
My problem is I can't tell if his new comfortable attitude around me is due to the fact that he seriously likes me, or just because he is more at ease and wants to be friends. I've asked my friends for advice but they are unsure too.
Is there a surefire way to differentiate between a guy just being kind in a friendly manner, or if he wants to date you? Bear in mind that he is somewhat awkward/shy, as I mentioned before.
1. Has he ever asked you if you have a boyfriend? If he has, it would mean that he is interested in your personal life which would indicate that he might have a love interest. Most guys, if they are attracted to a girl, would immediately start wondering if she has a boyfriend.
2. Have there been instances when you could judge that he was being a little "jealous" when you were hanging out with other guys? Guys are as prone to jealousy as girls. If he is attracted to you he will feel somewhat stirred when other guys try to flirt with you or hang out with you. If you have not tried this before, just try it once - get him a bit jealous by hanging out with some guy in front of him and see how he reacts to it.
3. Love is a sticky feeling and it shows. If his heart pinges for you he will miss you when you are not around, he will blush when you get close to him, he will stammer when you consciously flirt with him. Try to tune into to his emotional frequency and see if there is a spark in him when you get close to him physically and verbally.
4. If he wants to be friends with you it would have become very obvious by now. He would be talking to you about his "love" interests, telling you about some girl he met somewhere. Guys like to discuss about their "girlfriends" with their "girl" friends.
5. Have you guys gone out on a date alone yet? If not, why not initiate one. There is no point in beating about the bush. May be his is shy or awkward because he thinks that you might feel "horrified" if he expressed his feelings. So it's upto you to initiate some action and let him know that you are "interested".
Just ask him over to a dinner date at your house, or at a restaurant, dress sexy and see how he reacts to you. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
6. Talk deep with him, get over the "surface" level topics and jokes. The only way you will ever find out his emotions for you is by tuning into his emotional space. Get to know him intimately on the emotional level.
7. Most "love" relationships start with friendship. So if he looked at you as a friend for a while, that's no problem - in fact it's a good thing. What you need to do now is get some fire burning in him. Dress to kill, wear a sensual perfume, do something sexy with your hair and talk in a slightly "flirty" tone. You want to do something different and see how he reacts, may be he's gotten too comfortable with you! Get him out of his shell.
8. By the description you have given it looks like he is "attracted" to you. The problem with shy guys is that they are very inhibited in their expression of love because they don't want to end up getting hurt or rejected. The best thing to do would be to throw some hints that you are "interested" in him, that will give him the courage to bare his heart.
It's totally okay for a girl to initiate the first step in the direction of a relationship, this is especially true if the guy is shy. All you can do is guess unless you confirm, the only way you can confirm is by initiating some action in the direction of intimacy. Don't waste anymore time, a year is long enough. It's obvious that you have feelings for him, so what are you waiting for?