How To Tell If A Guy Likes You By His Body Language

How to tell if a man likes you or not? You can find women everywhere asking this question in their own mind or checking up with their friends or asking relationship experts, but really, it's easy for a woman to find out if a man really likes her, for two simple reasons.
  • Most men are open books and their body language gives them away
  • Women have a natural sixth sense to sense if a man is checking her out
As a woman, when you get an intuition that a guy is interested in you, it's mostly a true one and you can simply bank on it. So finding out if a man really likes you could just be about making a double-check on your intuition or gut feeling. Nevertheless, there are women who doubt their intuition and would like more concrete evidence to determine if a man digs her. So in this article we have listed down the body language of men which indicate whether he likes you or not.

Body Language of Men - Does He Like You?

Women are much more adept at controlling their body language than men are, the reason could lie in the psychological fact that women are more in touch with their body than men. Men are poor at manipulating their body language and so in most cases their unconscious actions are a give away of their feelings.

Let's make it clear, some men are just too obvious in their approach - they make steady eye contact, they give you their flashy or flirty smile, they get close into your personal space, they try to initiate conversation and start asking for your number after a few pleasantries. Such men are "pros", or may be even players, when it comes to dealing with women - but these are the minority. Most men are not so obvious about their interest, and may even be insecure about expressing their attraction. These men display subtle signs to show that they like you or are attracted to you, these are the signs we will discuss here.

Vital Signs of Attraction

Tentative Eye Contact

It might come as a surprise to many women but most men tend to be shy about making eye contact with the woman they feel strongly attracted to. If you catch a man looking at you when you are not looking in his direction, and who swiftly turns his glance away the moment you look at him, it would indicate that he secretly finds you attractive (it may not be love, but he's definitely attracted). If you find a guy making sheepish eye contact with you, ever so often, it's a sure shot sign of his attraction for you.

If a guy leers at you, or gives you blatant flirty looks, it shows he's interested but in a "lusty" sorta way. It suggests that he finds you hot, and you trigger sexual attraction in him. So if this is not the kind of relationship you are looking for, then just give him a cold shoulder.

If a guy is not attracted to a girl, or when he does not have a love interest, he will not be shy of making eye contact and mostly it would be a casual or an uninterested one. Of course, it's true that there are some uber confident males who make direct eye contact with the woman they want to get up close with, but with these men the signs are so in the face that you don't need to read an article on whether he's interested or not.

The Warm Smile

When in love, guys are less likely to display "flirty" behavior and more likely to behave in a "gentlemanly" manner. Most of them would display a warm smile to show their respect, adoration or admiration for you. If you feel a warmth, and respect, in his smile, it's an indication that he finds you pretty (rather than "hot") and may have gushy feelings of love for you, rather than testosterone pumped lust. So a warm smile is a good thing, and it suggests the possibility of love interest.

You might even see a guy smiling nervously at you, with an uncertain half smile. This indicates that he's is attracted to you but feels "insecure" about his chances with you. You can put him at ease by returning a warm smile, then the next time he sees you he will be more assured in his smile.

Watch His Adam's Apple

When you talk to a guy, who is normally confident, and if you see him a little "flustered" in your company, or blushing, with a bobbing adam's apple, it can be a quick give away of his feelings for you. He feels nervous because he's worried about the impression he's making on you, and when a person is nervous his "adam's apple" starts going up and down because of the strain of nervousness. When a guy is not interested in a girl, however beautiful she is, he will not be nervous in her company - he will be at ease with her.

The Helpful Attitude

If you find a man trying to be helpful of you, assisting you or giving you more importance, at the office, it's indicative of his interest in you. Men are usually very conservative about offering help, especially in office, and they would do so only if they have an interest in being close to you. He may offer to assist you with your office work, try to help you repair or sort out stuff, get you coffee or water, offer you a ride home or just look out for you at the meetings.

Grooming

When men are in love they try to take better care of their looks. If you see an evident change in the dressing style, or hair style, of a man, after he gets to know you a bit, it could indicate that you are having an impact on him. Most men are not naturally good at dressing up, so if you see a man making a conscious effort to look good, it would directly mean that he's trying to impress a girl - and it could be you.

Standing Tall

Guys have an unconscious way of displaying their masculinity by standing tall, with their stomach tucked in, when they are in the company of a woman they are attracted to. It's a man's way of trying to impress a woman with his body, however miserable the attempt might come off. Most guys tend to slouch a lot, so it becomes evident when they suddenly stand erect.

Exaggerated Behavior To Catch Your Attention

Some guys tend to behave in a very exaggerated manner around their friends and colleagues when their "love interest" is in the vicinity. Just notice his behavior with other men, when you are around. Does he suddenly start cracking jokes, talking loud or making strong opinions? This is again an unconscious behavior on a man's part and is aimed at impressing the fact that he is the leader of the pack.

Other Suggestive Signs that Show if a Man Likes You

Finding Out if You have a Boyfriend

If a man is really serious about you, then he will definitely try to find out if you already have an on-going relationship with another guy. Some men might ask you this question directly whereas others will try to find this out by some other means like asking your friends or someone who is close to you. He might even ask you indirect questions about your plan for the weekend. All these are ways to find out if you already have a boyfriend. Once a man is sure that you are single, he will make his next move or wait for you to make a move by giving you all the right signals.

Subtle Signals

Fear of getting rejected stops most men from making this final move; which is asking a girl for a date. Most men will instead send indirect signals that they want to date you. Some examples are - asking to drop you home (if you are working in the same office or studying in the same school/college), getting you gifts, telling you about their weekend plans (suggesting they are alone). He will try to see if you pick up the opportunity and open up an invitation for a date. Of course, some guys would be a lot more direct in their asking.

Taking the Relationship Forward

Once you start dating, you are likely to figure out the real chemistry between the two of you. The relationship may fizzle out or become a really stable one, depending on your compatibility. Guys become much more open about their emotions and feelings once they are feel comfortable in a girl's company (they rarely talk about their emotions with their guy friends, unlike girls).

So these are some of the ways in which you can tell if a man likes you. With some deliberate observation you can pick up on the body language of a man who's attracted to you, and then proceed to either give him a green signal or block him out with your coldness.







Your Comments

Dee said..
There is this guy in my school who I think likes me and now I am sure after reading this article because he shows pretty much all these signs. He smiles at me whenever our eyes meet and one of my friends told me that he asked him about me. The only problem is that he is not a very social guy. I always find him sitting alone and I don't think he has many friends. I really don't know if I should wait for him to approach me or just intiate it myself. I don't want to seem too desperate but I am crazy for him and cannot wait any longer. Any ideas?

Tina said..
One of my classmate often asks me if I have a boyfriend, even if he already knows that I don't have any boyfriend, and he loves insulting and teasing me, but when I am with my other classmate (his is a guy) I often catch him looking at us. And yesterday he tried to catch me when my feet slipped, because of the slippery floor. I don't know what is his feelings for me. can anyone answer me, because he is asking me, when I will answer him, and he is always trying to hold my hand. I don't know what to do :(

Mary said..
Tina, this is my response. What are your feelings for him? Don't do anything just because you feel obligated to. If you like him, then wait for him to ask you out, don't ask him out because it will make you look needy. If you don't like him just explain how you feel and that you just want to be friends.

Dee, definitely start to talk to him and flirt with him too. He might get the hint and ask you out. I am sure he feels the same way about you as you feel about him. Don't worry. If he takes too long then just ask him out. I mean, whats the worst that can happen?

Mary said..
There is a guy at my school who is popular and I know he is kind of perverted but he doesn't act perverted around me. Iam really the only girl who he is really close to, yet he has dated other girls so I don't know he has looked at me when he's with them and when I see him he looks away quickly. I think he might be trying to make me jealous but I don't know. He asks me for help alot during school and we talk alot too. Does he like me?

Arnika said..
There is a guy my BFF. The things are complex because he was the one who made me feel special saying you are my soul sister and by adding that half of my soul is in you. He says, no one can ever take my place. He held me when I was about to fall, he brings chocolates for me on really small deals. He longs to talk to me. I am like his personal diary. But then we all know that he likes some other girl who does not reciprocate the feeling and I just dont want to be a mere time pass or a friend just to hear how was his day and all that stuff. Please help!

Musa said..
There is a guy who loves teasing me, joking. He looks constantly at me, in a deep way, very deep way, and even when I look at him he continues, looks like hypnotized and then he looks in another direction. He is not the kind of boy who loves to talk on the phone but personally he looks interested in me, I guess and my friends say the same. The other day I was alone with him at his house and I was singing and he was playing guitar and suddenly he started approaching me and he stood right behind me, soo close. And I could feel 'THAT LOOK'; his beautiful eyes staring at me. And when I looked at him and smiled trying to feel more comfortable he didn't move, just kept his eyes at me, so deeply, so strongly that I felt like in a movie. But I'm afraid i'm wrong. Can you help me? Does he seem interested?

Elizabeth said..
There is this guy that I like from my college. It seemed like he likes me too; he often sticks around me even though my classmates are gone, and often sends the "signals to me" and looks at me in a warm manner. That made me think that he is sort of attracted to me too.

So one week ago, I wanted to know whether if it is really true that he likes me too. I told him though SMS that, "I dont know why, but I think I have some feelings for you, do you have feelings for me too? please reply and let me know, if you like me the same way, and please don't, if you dont like me". After 30 minutes or so, I received an SMS which I didn't dare to look at. I waited for another hour to see if there is another SMS from him to show that he wants to pursue me. But it didn't happen. So I finally saw the SMS he sent; all he wrote was "I hope we are just friends".

Now it has been one week past, I was finally able to accept the fact that he doesnt like me, but I am wondering, why guys are so complicated? All this while my intuition told me that he liked me, but it turns out to be the opposite. I am just so confused now.

Clef said..
Too bad, he's not showing any sign. Oh, I missed the "being helpful part". Though, I don't think it means something. He doesn't even try to look better. I was insisting that he should have his hair cut, but still, he wouldn't do it.

Ashley said..
There's a guy in my church who is really cute. He invites me to youth classes and things like that. I just saw him over 3 times looking at me, I dont know what to think. He does stand tall and when he sees me he starts laughing and talking to some girls and trying to play with his friends. But I am still looking for more signs :).

Nia said..
There's a guy in my college who is so close to me. I'm not sure if he just thinks of me as one of his closest friends or more than that. I always find him looking at me and I feel awkward thus, I always try not to look back at him. My friends said that they always find him laughing heartily with me which is rare when he is with others. Because of this, I find it hard to talk to him casually and this complicates everything. I'm afraid that this is just my feeling and I feel shy to ask him about this - if he likes me or not.

Taylor said..
@Mary,

I experienced like that too. I mean he's not that popular but he's lovely and some girls liked him. And he's perverted too. But when it comes to me, he's totally different. Well, he is my bestfriend and I'll accept him just the way he is. I obviously know that he likes me. He's wearing his heart on his sleeve. He always holds my hand and he always trys to hug me. But he didn't tell it to me until I got a boyfriend. I thought he doesn't like me cause he just talks about how beautiful this girl he 'likes'is. Then he will ask for my help about anything. I got annoyed. And when he knew that I got a bf, he started to get so rebellious and he court that girl that he doesn't even like just to get over me and make me feel jealous. I admit that I liked him all this time but he didn't tell it. So our situation is a little alike.

(About that boy): Maybe he likes you a bit and he thinks that you're his bestfriend and he always gets shy when you're around. There is 60% chance that he wants you to get jealous. But try to ask him. I mean, you and him are close right? So, don't sit around and wait. If you like him I know you want to know if he really likes you. But if you're not interested I think you may leave the situation hanging. :D

Michaela said..
I like this guy from school. Whenever I see him in corridors, I can't help but glare at him, and he often caught me staring at him, so I ended up looking away. Then one day, while I was walking in the corridor, he saw me and looked away. I think he already knows that I like him already. From then on, I can see him looking at me too, and sometimes, when I look at him, he avoided me. He doesn't have a lot of friends and not that sociable, but he's smart and handsome. What shall I do to make him talk to me?