How to tell if a man likes you or not? You can find women everywhere asking this question in their own mind or checking up with their friends or asking relationship experts, but in reality, it’s easy for a woman to find out if a man really likes her, for two simple reasons as follows:
- Most men are open books and their body language gives them away.
- Women can intuitively sense if a man is checking her out.
As a woman, when you get an intuition that a guy is interested in you, it’s mostly a true one and you can simply bank on it. So finding out if a man really likes you could just be about making a double-check on your intuition or gut feeling.
Nevertheless, there are women who doubt their intuition and would like more concrete evidence to determine if a man digs her. So in this article we have made an attempt to list down some important body language signals which indicate whether he likes you or not.
Body Language of Men – Does He Like You?
Women are much more adept at controlling their body language than men are; the reason could lie in the psychological fact that women are more in touch with their body than men. Men are poor at manipulating their body language and so in most cases their unconscious actions are a give away of their feelings.
Let’s make it clear, some men are just too obvious in their approach – they make steady eye contact, they give you their flashy or flirty smile, they get close into your personal space, they try to initiate conversation and start asking for your number after a few pleasantries.
Such men are “pros”, or may be even players, when it comes to dealing with women – but these types of guys are the minority. Most men are not so obvious about their interest, and may even be insecure about expressing their attraction.
These men display subtle signs to show that they like you or are attracted to you, these are the signs we will discuss here.
1.) He Makes Tentative Eye Contact
It might come as a surprise to many women but most men tend to be shy about making eye contact with the woman they feel strongly attracted to.
If you catch a man looking at you when you are not looking in his direction, and who swiftly turns his glance away the moment you look at him, it would indicate that he secretly finds you attractive (it may not be love, but he’s definitely attracted).
If you find a guy making sheepish eye contact with you, ever so often, it’s a sure shot sign of his attraction for you.
If a guy leers at you, or gives you blatant flirty looks, it shows he’s interested but in a “lusty” sorta way. It suggests that he finds you hot, and you trigger sexual attraction in him. So if this is not the kind of relationship you are looking for, then just give him a cold shoulder.
If a guy is not attracted to a girl, or when he does not have a love interest, he will not be shy of making eye contact and mostly it would be a casual or an uninterested one. Of course, it’s true that there are some uber confident males who make direct eye contact with the woman they want to get up close with, but with these men the signs are so in the face that you don’t need to read an article on whether he’s interested or not.
2.) He Gives You That Warm Smile
When in love, guys are less likely to display “flirty” behavior and more likely to behave in a “gentlemanly” manner.
Most of them would display a warm smile to show their respect, adoration or admiration for you.
If you feel a warmth, and respect, in his smile, it’s an indication that he finds you pretty (rather than “hot”) and may have gushy feelings of love for you, rather than testosterone pumped lust. So a warm smile is a good thing, and it suggests the possibility of love interest.
You might even see a guy smiling nervously at you, with an uncertain half smile. This indicates that he’s is attracted to you but feels “insecure” about his chances with you. You can put him at ease by returning a warm smile, then the next time he sees you he will be more assured in his smile.
3.) He Gets Nervous In Your Company
When you talk to a guy, who is normally confident, and if you see him a little “flustered” in your company, or blushing, with a bobbing Adam’s apple, it can be a quick give away of his feelings for you.
He feels nervous because he’s worried about the impression he’s making on you, and when a person is nervous his “adam’s apple” starts going up and down because of the strain of nervousness.
He might even seem a little fidgety, adjusting his hair, playing with his fingers etc.
Note that the nervous behaviour is only during the first few interactions and will reduce as his starts getting comfortable with you.
When a guy is not interested in a girl, however beautiful she is, he will not be nervous in her company – he will be at ease with her during the initial interactions.
4.) He Has A Helpful Attitude Towards You
If you find a man trying to be helpful to you, assisting you or giving you more importance, say for example, in the classroom or your workplace, it’s indicative of his interest in you.
Men are usually very conservative about offering help, especially in office, and they would do so only if they have an interest in being close to you. He may offer to assist you with your office work, try to help you repair or sort out stuff, get you coffee or water, offer you a ride home or just look out for you at the meetings.
5.) He Works On Appearing Well Groomed
When men are in love they try to take better care of their looks.
If you see an evident change in the dressing style, or hair style, of a man, after he gets to know you a bit, it could indicate that you are having an impact on him. Most men are not naturally good or positively inclined at dressing up; so if you see a man making a conscious effort to look good, it would directly mean that he’s trying to impress a girl – and it could be you.
6.) He Stands Tall In Your Presence
Guys have an unconscious way of displaying their masculinity by standing tall, with their stomach tucked in, when they are in the company of a woman they are attracted to.
It’s a man’s way of trying to impress a woman with his body, however miserable the attempt might come off. Most guys tend to slouch a lot, so it becomes evident when they suddenly stand erect.
7.) He Displays Exaggerated Behavior To Catch Your Attention
Some guys tend to behave in a very exaggerated manner around their friends and colleagues when their “love interest” is in the vicinity.
Just notice his behavior with other men, when you are around. Does he suddenly start cracking jokes, talking loud or making strong opinions? This is again an unconscious behavior on a man’s part and is aimed at impressing the fact that he is the leader of the pack.
Other Suggestive Signs that Show if a Man Likes You
8.) He Finds Out if You have a Boyfriend
If a man is really serious about you, then he will definitely try to find out if you already have an on-going relationship with another guy.
Some men might ask you this question directly whereas others will try to find this out by some other means like asking your friends or someone who is close to you. He might even ask you indirect questions about your plan for the weekend. All these are ways to find out if you already have a boyfriend.
Once a man is sure that you are single, he will make his next move or wait for you to make a move by giving you all the right signals.
9.) He Tries To Initiate A Date With You
Fear of getting rejected stops most men from making this final move; which is asking a girl for a date.
Most men will instead send indirect signals that they want to date you.
Some examples are: Asking to drop you home (if you are working in the same office or studying in the same school/college), getting you gifts, telling you about their weekend plans (suggesting they are alone).
He will try to see if you pick up the opportunity and open up an invitation for a date. Of course, some guys would be a lot more direct in their asking.
Taking the Relationship Forward
Once you start dating, you are likely to figure out the real chemistry between the two of you. The relationship may fizzle out or become a really stable one, depending on your compatibility. Guys become much more open about their emotions and feelings once they are feel comfortable in a girl’s company (they rarely talk about their emotions with their guy friends, unlike girls).
So these are some of the ways in which you can tell if a man likes you. With some deliberate observation you can pick up on the body language of a man who’s attracted to you, and then proceed to either give him a green signal or block him out with your coldness.