Can you catch a guy lying to you? It depends on how “savvy” the guy is, but in most cases it’s a cinch. Of course, if you are stuck with a “habitual” liar, your relationship is not going to last the course. Innocent lies are okay, every now and then, but what you have to safe guard against are “black” lies aimed at keeping you in the dark about his “side affairs”. It helps to be aware of the signs your boyfriend gives off unconsciously while lying.
The good news is that most guys truly suck at lying. Girls can do a much better job of lying than a guy can ever hope to do. This is because guys are largely unconscious of their “body”, contrary to girls, who are more in touch with their bodies. So when a guy is lying, he is bound to give off some unconscious clues through his body movements. If you are a keen observer you can catch the most “savvy” guy trying to dupe you.
Signs to Watch Out For
Here are the most common signs that guys give when they are lying:
His voice cracks
This is usually the most common give away sign among guys. When a guy is lying consciously, he might end up changing the “modulation” of his voice because of the stress he puts on his vocal chords. Guys have a “broad” voice but they just need to put a little pressure on their chords to make it “shrill”. While lying, a guy unconsciously puts pressure on his chords, and thus ends up “cracking” his voice. So if you detect subtle changes in his tone “modulation”, it’s a hint that he might be feeling guilty within, or hiding something from you.
He smiles awkwardly
Guys giveaway their “guilt” through their smile. If you detect a “nervous” or an “awkward” smile, it’s a sure fire indication that he is not comfortable with something he is saying, or doing. You can call it a “hyena” smile, which reeks of guilt and fear. Some guys practice hard at not “smiling” while telling a lie. Here’s a tip, when you have a inkling that he’s lying, just simply give him a long, cold, “silent” stare and see his reaction. If he gives you an “awkward” smile, it would mean he’s hiding something.
He speaks with pauses
If he takes too much time in answering you, it’s an indication that he is “grinding” his brains to come up with a convincing lie. It’s easy to detect a lack of spontaneity when a guy is trying to come up with a lie; this is because most guys are not too “sure” of their acumen at lying. It is said that girls can lie glibly, because they can detach themselves from their mind when they are lying. The same is not true for most guys; in fact they tend to go more into the mind when they are trying to lie. Too many pauses in the midst of his conversation is a sure sign that your boyfriend is lying to you.
He tries to change the topic
The simple rule that most guys follow is “what she does not know can’t hurt her”, so they simple try to divert the topic when they are cornered. Guys are good at changing topics glibly, because it does not feel like a “lie” to them. Hiding information is not the same as lying, in a guy’s dictionary. So as much as possible the guy would prefer to simply change the topic instead of running the risk of telling a lie. If you catch your boyfriend consciously avoiding a particular question, while trying to take your attention away to some other topic, it’s an indication that he’s hiding something from you.
He reacts in anger
When guys get cornered, their usual reaction is anger. Guilt or fear can easily change to aggression as a means of defending their stand. So if your boyfriend acts unreasonably “aggressive” when questioned about something, it’s an indication that he has a few “ghosts” he’s trying to hide. Most guys are vulnerable to this weakness, where they unconsciously hide their fears behind their show of anger.
He avoids eye contact
Try as hard as they will, guys can never get good at lying because they find it hard to master the art of maintaining steady eye contact while telling a lie, something that most girls are really good at. Usually guys tend to twitch their eyes, look around or just stare in a different direction when confronted with a lie. You can easily detect when a guy is lying by asking him to talk while looking in your eyes, very few guys can pull that off with success.
He makes hurried body movements
Guys are less in touch with their body than girls, and so are vulnerable to unconscious body movements especially when they are nervous, fearful or feeling guilty. If you notice your boyfriend passing his fingers through his hair, shaking his legs, playing with his fingers or scratching his face, in a hurried movement, while talking to you, it’s a good indication that he’s edgy about something.
Very few guys ever learn the art of subtlety, they are clumsy and gross with their actions most of the time. This is where a girl has an edge over a guy; she is a lot more adept at subtleness and can do a better job of lying or getting away with a lie. All the above signs of your boyfriend lying to you, are very subjective but would be true in most cases; in any case you can use them as cues to “interrogate” further.