Any relationship has its share of ups and downs. The more interesting and intimate the relationship, the more of a rollercoaster ride it is. There is no such thing as a “smooth” relationship, because there are two humans involved with different personalities and varying moods. There are bound to be a few tussles, misunderstandings and “ego clashes” in a relationship. What’s important is how you deal with it.
Love and trust, make for the foundation of a solid relationship. Once you have them in place, you can face any issues or problems that creep in on day to day basis. In the absence of true love, you will find yourself completely “de-motivated” and frustrated with the every small niggle that arises in your relationship. So don’t worry about the “fights” and misunderstandings, they are a part and parcel of any healthy relationship; the more important aspect is to put in the effort to build love and trust.
Coming to the point, there was a misunderstanding, you had a fight with your boyfriend, and now you are feeling guilty because you realize that you were at fault. So how do you go about saying sorry to your boyfriend, in a really sweet way?
Few Tips to Consider
Apologize in person
It’s always best to apologize face to face. Of course, if there is no option, you can always call him up or send him an email, but it won’t be the same as a “in person” apology.
If he stays alone, you can plan on going over to his house “as a surprise”. Don’t call him and intimate him about you coming over. Let it be a surprise element, this way he will be caught off guard, or else he will have enough time to prepare himself for a confrontation.
Tears can melt any hurt away
If you are genuinely feeling bad about hurting him, and if you’ve missed him a lot during the period of separation, you are bound to go teary eyed when you see him. Guys have a serious weakness for a girl’s tears; they can forgive almost anything when they see their girl cry.
Say the magic words
A plain and simple “I am really sorry for what I did” is enough to convey your apology. Don’t make it poetic or verbose, as it will come off as “practiced” and artificial.
Say it slow and say it soft. The tone of your voice should convey how bad you are feeling about hurting him. Let your emotions come through freely, and don’t try to hold back. Always be genuine in your expression. If you don’t really feel apologetic, your boyfriend will know it subconsciously.
Let him know that it was unintentional on your part. “I did not mean to do this” or “I did not mean to hurt you”, will convey to him that what you did was out of anger and that you did not mean it intentionally.
Hug him tight
Physical contact is a great way to convey emotions. So be sure to hug him soon after you spell out your apology. Hugging is a great way to end a fight. In many cases, a hug will be followed by a kiss on his part. If he has missed you, he is bound to respond to your physical contact.
A bout of “patch up” love making is great
There is no sweeter way to make up than to end up making love. Sex is a great emotional healer. Be sure to pleasure him, and pamper him, while making love. Make it special and make him feel how much you missed him.
Love is all about vulnerability, so there is no place for “ego” in true relationships. When you are in the wrong, be willing to apologize and make it count. Don’t say sorry for the heck of it. Misunderstandings are bound to happen in a relationship, but they also afford an opportunity to get closer and more intimate.