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Four Reasons Why Men Cheat
Trust and devotion are the hallmarks of true love. Trust brings an innocent acceptance and devotion brings a stability that can only exist in the presence of a pure heart. The purity of this love is what all of us seem to crave for but few of us find.Men cheat in their relationship when there is a lack of devotion towards their partner. Devotion is not a "weakness" as thoughts would suggest, there is a depth and purity to it that cannot be understood by the thinking mind. True love and devotion go hand in hand. A man who is devoted to his wife or girlfriend would refrain from cheating on her.
There are several reasons why a man falls out of devotion towards his woman and hence chooses to cheat on her. Listed below are four common reasons why men cheat.
Their mind conditioning prompts them to cheat – Men have been brought up to believe that they should be "manly" which eventually translates to being – cold, aggressive, virile and emotionless. They have been told that their forefathers, the primate man, used to have several wives and mistresses. They look at the animal kingdom and see the prevalence of polygamy.
Their peers and seniors seem to be engaging in extra-martial affairs. The basic conditioning that emerges is that being devoted to a single woman is "wimpish" or unmanly. So a man starts wondering if he is making a mistake by staying true to one woman.
Their sexual impulses drive them to seek variety – Each of us has a unique "sexual" drive, some have it in excess while some almost feel a lack of it. Most men have a pretty prominent sex drive propelled by the surge of testosterone. So men watch porn, hit strip clubs and indulge in sexual adventures to satisfy their cravings of their sex drive. They find it difficult to derive that same sexual high with their wife or "stable" girlfriend. So they end up cheating.
A man cannot really be held responsible for his sex drive, what he can be held responsible is for a lack of integrity but when the "drives" get out of control integrity is the first thing that goes out of the window.
Resentment towards their partner drives them outdoors – Maintaining a relationship takes devotion. After marriage, or once a relationship becomes stable, there is a tendency for the partners to take things for granted. This is when “distance” starts setting in. A man starts to feel that his wife or girlfriend is not respecting him or being as loving as she was before. This hurts his male ego quite terribly.
Having an extra-marital affair turns into a channel through which the frustration of an unhappy marriage is released. A man internally starts deriving a sadistic pleasure out of cheating on his wife who he thinks is being cold towards him. A hurt male ego can easily take solace in sex outside the relationship.
Power and success gets into a man’s head – Most men who become famous, rich or powerful change completely from what they were before they attained success. The lethal drug called "euphoria" of success can get into the heads of the best of men. They start feeling invincible and they start demanding more in an effort to satiate their “greed” which has started taking control of their life. More money, more fame, more success and definitely more sex.
There are men who stay grounded in spite of their success, but this requires a lot of character and integrity which is often sadly lacking. It’s easier to give in to the “greed” inducing mind that can’t get enough of the pleasures that success brings, not realizing that the more they get the more they need – so effectively they are not happier than before.
So in a nutshell, the four reasons why men cheat are – mind conditioning, sex drive, resentment and power. In some cases it will be a mix of two or all of these factors.
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