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How to Show Your Man He is Important?

There is a certain truth to the statement that men are more in their minds while women are more in touch with their heart. In plains words, men are more “egoistic” than women. So most men want to feel important, this becomes even more crucial for them in their relationships.

The way you make a guy feel important is by oiling his ego, this might sound a little "manipulative" but men could care less if you "mean" it or you are "faking" it. They just get blinded when a woman adds a creamy layer of butter on their ego.

Men are quite wary of other men who try to "oil" their ego because they get a little suspicious of their intent but when a woman does it they just let their guard off. It’s as if men know that they have nothing to fear from a woman.

You may want to make a guy feel important because you love him and want him to feel more confident and proud. You may also want to make your man feel important because he will then like to be in your company. Or you can "oil" his ego just to get your job done.

So here are the ways to make a guy feel important

Swoon over his technical abilities – Men attach a lot important to their technical prowess. Be it fixing a light bulb, opening the tight lid of that pickle jar, solving the computer problem or just fixing that "leak", men like to think of themselves as "resourceful". Nothing makes them feel more important than being acknowledged for their usefulness.

Just words like "wow, you are so intelligent" or "cool, I could never have figured it out the way you did" go a long way in making him feel like a “manly” man. In turn he is going to a "devoted" to you for making him feel this way, even if he is not conscious of this fact.

Admire his physical strength – Even if the guy is not a “Rambo” just praise him for his strength or stamina every now and then. You can make him feel nice and proud just by commenting on what a healthy physique he has (even if he doesn’t have one). Most men like to believe they are the “protectors” of their woman folk, so let him know you feel secure and protected in his "strong" company.

Let him know he is great lover – Most men are just awful lovers. They get clumsy, impatient and sloppy while in the bed. But most men like to think they are the best lovers that god created. You don’t have to fake it, but every now and then when you think he did a little better than his previous attempts just give him a “I love you, you made me feel so great”.

The worst thing you can ever do is to downplay a man’s sexual prowess. Don’t ever tell him that he is a bad kisser or “sloppy” lover. He is never going to be comfortable around making love to you if it rides on the back of his mind that he might let you down. In fact, when you praise him for being a good lover he will want to improve and make the “love making” even better for you.

Ask him for solutions – Nothing makes a guy feel more important than being called in for "solutions". Men are solution makers, or at least they think they are. Their forefathers were hunters who lived by their wits, so it runs in their blood.

Ever so often just let him solve some of your problems, it could be some financial issue, some technical issue or just a philosophical query. Once he present a half decent solution just tell him things like "cool, I could never of thought of this myself" or "that’s so smart of you". Of course, you may internally not find the solution very useful at all.

Ever so often be a little submissive – If you are woman who is inherently on the "dominant" side, you might want to loosen up a bit every now and then. Men hate being submissive period, of course some men allow for it more than others – totally depends the size of his ego.

You can submit to his preferences or opinions ever so often just so he feels his is in command. Men are pretty touchy when their dominance feels threatened all the time in their relationship. So making a few allowances will keep things balanced.

Show him that you care – For some odd reason many women feel "insecure" opening out their heart to a man. If you love him just show him how much you love him by your actions, don’t hold back. Make him a special dinner, surprise him with gifts, pleasure him in intimate way and just be “loving” towards him. Unless the man is a bit neurotic he is going to feel really close to you while also feeling very important for the position he holds in your life.

Your guy will really feel important when he knows he is the "top" priority in your world. Show it in actions though because men don’t catch on to subtle hints.

In conclusion, men are quite simple especially considering the fact that they have a weakness for the fair sex. Anything you do or say that makes them feel “manly” is going to make them feel really important. Remember, you can fake it or mean it and still have the same results.



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