You adore that man; you have fallen in love with him, and you are giving him all the right signals. But there is no response from the other side. You are pretty much sure he is not gay and that he also does not have a girl friend. He seems to like you but is not showing any strong signs that would take the relationship further. What could be the reason? May be he is love shy!
According to a research over 1.7 million US males suffer from love shyness. So is your man love shy? Let us find out love shyness really is?
Is Your Man Love Shy?
Love shyness is a term used to describe men with a kind of chronic shyness which makes it extremely difficult for them to be assertive in informal situations involving potential romantic partners. Having said this, I must tell you that these men are perfectly normal. They have perfectly functional sexuality, they are healthy, they are heterosexual and they might as well make great lovers.
The only issue is the preconceived notions that they have about themselves which makes them feel inferior to others especially in social situations. In addition these notions also tell them that they cannot keep their partners happy and hence will eventually be rejected. The extreme fear of rejection is what makes them turn down any potential approaches made by woman towards them. But deep down within, they are desperately longing to develop intimate relationship with the member of the opposite sex.
Let us now look at some traits of a love shy man:
- A love shy male is generally a virgin even at a very high age like 25 and above and will not have had any intimate relationship with members of the opposite sex.
- Such men rarely go out with women socially, they avoid social gatherings and are generally introverts.
- They do not develop friendships easily and talk only to those with whom they feel comfortable and those with whom they do not feel the fear of rejection.
- He is strictly heterosexual and longs desperately to have intimate relationship with a member of the opposite sex, but stays back cause of fear of getting rejected.
- He is a man who has suffered and is continuously suffering emotionally cause of lack of meaningful female companionship.
Why do Men Become Love Shy?
Love shyness has been blamed largely to the man’s upbringing as a child. So the man’s parents, teachers and peers are largely to be held responsible. Situations where the child’s parents ignore or abuse him, are alcoholics and where the child finds that he does not have anyone to fall back on for emotional support. These are some reasons for a man becoming love shy at an older age.
How to Approach a Love Shy Man?
If you find that you have fallen in love with a love shy man, you got to get one thing straight; he is not going to approach you. But this does not mean that he does not love you. Deep down inside, he might be having a lot of feelings for you which he is too afraid to put forward. So the ball is in your court now. Break the ice and get the ball rolling by approaching him first. Show all the signs that you love him. Show concern for him and tell him that you will love him and accept him irrespective of his problems.
Love shy men are desperately looking for companionship; someone who can make them feel important and someone who can love them irrespective of their shortcomings. Once they find such a love, there are all the more chances that they will break free from their shell and become completely normal again.
You see, love shyness is not to be confused with other personality disorders. As this is not exactly a disorder. The problem lies with the fact that the male has not found the right companion so far in his life. Once the right companion comes, things are going to change for the better.
Love shy men can make great lovers; they are loyal, trustful and will keep you happy. All you got to do is approach him and fill that void in his life.