Why Does My Husband Look at Other Women and Denies It?

In any relationship there is bound to be a sense of possessiveness. It is natural for jealousy to arise as result of this tendency to want to possess, or take complete ownership, of the person we are in relationship with. Many women complain that their husband or boyfriend has this annoying habit of staring at, or checking out, other women even when he is in their company. This can be annoying and can lead to a sense of feeling inferior or you might also start doubting the loyalty of your husband.

Ignorance is not always bliss. Knowledge of male behavior can help you understand them better which in turn will allow you some peace of mind. So let us find out why your husband looks at other women and then later denies it.

Why Does My Husband Stare At Other Women?

These are the reasons why your husband looks at other women and denies it when you interrogate him.

It's Human Nature

It is part of human nature to look at something or someone we find attractive. And that holds true for women as well. This in no way means that your husband does not find you attractive. After all, he fell in love with you and married you, didn't he?

Another point to note is that the male brain is wired to be visual because men have been hunters since the beginning of time. The primitive man was expected to hunt for a living and his primary weapon was his vision or eye sight. The brain of a man is stimulated by images much more than the brain of a woman. If there is anything visually interesting in the vicinity of his vision, he will look – this behavior is wired in him subconsciously. So if a woman comes in the range of his vision and she has attractive looks about her, then your husband is bound to watch her. Again, this does not mean he does not love you or finds you less attractive.

Why Does He Deny It?

Just because something comes naturally does not mean that we are okay with it. Most men do feel guilty about checking out other women when they are already in a committed relationship. Not all men are comfortable about their sexuality and hence feel bad about themselves when they look at another woman.

If you find him checking out another woman and ask him about it, he will deny it point blank. For one, he did it subconsciously and secondly he knows that it will hurt you if he accepts that he was checking out another woman. The safer route of course is to deny and that’s what they do.

I hope this answers why your husband looks at other women and denies it when asked. It helps to take this behavior playfully instead of getting serious about it. If you find him flirting with other women, then you have a valid reason to feel angry. If he is checking out another women just know that it is not that big of a deal. Try checking out a few men and get him jealous instead.

Your Comments

Sonya said..
Men can chose to put their wife's feelings before their need to fulfill their "instincts". If they love their wife, they will at least only look once not 2,3,4,or five times. Please be honest. After one or two times you have seen what you need to anymore than that and it's lust.

Margaret said..
Looking once or maybe a second look, but not staring and following her with his eyes. That is rude and disrespectful to his wife. A man should love and respect his wife as well. If he is truly in love with her, no other woman will matter to him. Maybe more women should act like men and see how they will like it.

Sara said..
I agree with the above two comments. Just because "it's natural" should not be used as an excuse to not control it; also a quick look is one thing but head twisting, or following with the eyes is leading to lust. I'm pretty sure husbands would find it disrespectful if they regularily found their wives doing these things and then denying it.

Peaches said..
I think it is disrespectful when your man is looking at another woman and says he is not and that you are paranoid and jealous. But then you try to dress like the women that he is always looking at so that may be he will notice you but he does not like and you try to wear make up and he tells you, you look ok but I like it better when you don't wear make up. You look better natural. He don't want other men to look at me but he looks at other woman? It is so confusing. I want to make him happy so he won't lust over other woman but nothing I do gets a positive reaction out of him. And to look one time is normal. But to stare is not. Especially when I am right there. And then request that I don't wear shorts or shirts that show my cleavege. I don't really want to be provocotive for other people or anything, I just feel stuck what does he want? :(

Lynn said..
Obviously noticing how attractive someone is, is normal. Staring at someone else while your partner is speaking and you tune them out or turning to get a better look is just being a loser. I'm sick of people making excuses for their partners. If your partner is blatantly checking someone else out, you need to look for a new partner and dump the cad. I know it sounds harsh, but that kind of person is the person who eventually cheats.

Sue said..
Lynn, I believe you are right! If a man cannot or will not control himself when he's with his wife, at some point when she's not around, he's going to take his oogling a few steps further. I completely get glancing at an attractive woman, but what I don't get is when he's so busy checking out a woman he doesn't hear me or see me watching him. It makes me sick to my stomach. I know it is only a matter of time before he finds himself alone, with time on his hands and he seeks out the hunny that he's eyed while he's been with me.