A relationship can leave a deep impact on our minds. Break ups and separation do happen in the most intimate of relationships and it does leave a scar behind which usually take longer to heal than when we break up from a casual relationship.
Guys are just as prone to the emotional turmoil of a break up as girls are. Most guys would rather bite the bullet and maintain their distance even if they want to get back with their “ex” girlfriend, their ego would fear another rebuttal.
A break up can take place due to misunderstandings, or sometimes trivial “ego” issues, after which the couple part ways even if they still carry feelings for their “ex” partner. There is no rule which says that you cannot patch up after a break up no matter how harsh it might have been. If there is still love left in your hearts you may as well bond back again.
It helps to know if your ex boyfriend still likes you, in other words if he is considering patching up with you. Most guys will not be open about their feelings because of their hurt “male ego”. So even if your ex boyfriend is missing you like crazy he will not let you know about it directly.
Signs Your Exboyfriend Still Loves You
Here are few hints to look out for to determine if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you:
Get in touch with his friends and ask about his behavior
You are sure to have made some mutual friends during your relationship together. You can get in touch with one such mutual friend and ask him/her to confidentially check up on your ex boyfriend’s behavior.
If you find out that your ex boyfriend is sulky, moody or depressed, it would point to the fact that he is missing you or is finding it hard to overcome his feelings for you. He may not disclose his feelings to this mutual friend, but if his sadness is obvious it’s evident that he is having a hard time with the break up.
If he calls you it means he misses you
After a break up if a guy calls you up it’s at the cost of swallowing his male ego. He would do that only if he still cares for you badly. Even if he does not say anything over the call or if he’s quite cold while talking to you, the mere fact that he called up indicates that he can’t stop thinking about you.
Find out if he’s started dating again
It’s quite a small world out there and if you guys are living in the same locality or work in the same office, it’s quite easy to determine if he’s started dating again. When a guy becomes open to new relationships it basically means that he has burnt his bridges behind him and he has recovered from his emotional pull.
Many guys start dating soon after the break up to help distract themselves or to fill the gap that’s suddenly introduced into their lives. But once he starts dating it won’t be long before he rewrites his memory with a new relationship. Most guys are pretty good at suppressing old memories by engaging in new ventures.
Determine if he is drugging his grief
If you are in touch with some of his friend they will let you know if he’s trying to opiate his grief through alcohol or cigarettes. Most guys have a definite tendency towards mood changing chemicals like tobacco and alcohol to help overcome their emotional suffering. Most guys have a general inclination to go around an emotional hang up instead of facing it head on, that’s why many guys end up getting hooked to alcohol while going through a break up.
Check if there is a change in his physical appearance
If he is going through a hard time getting over the break up, there is a good possibility that his personal hygiene has taken a back seat. The usual symptoms of a guy going through a break up are an overgrown stubble or beard, shoddy hair and poor dressing.
Many guys get tremendously lazy when they go through a depressive spell and the last thing they bother about is their appearance.
See what he’s saying on his facebook
It’s quite a norm for everyone to have a facebook account these days, where you can share your day with your friends. If your boyfriend has a facebook account, just check up on what he’s updating. Check if he’s updated any photos of any new girlfriend or if he’s sharing the new happenings in their life. Guys get pretty active on the social networking circles when they are single and ready to mingle.
If he’s trying to find new “girl” friends or if the tone of his messages indicates that he’s quite happy about the break up, you can adjudge that he’s moved on.
In conclusion, if you want to find out if your ex boyfriend still likes you there is no better way to do it than through some of his “discretionary” friends. You will get a truer picture of what he’s going through when it comes from his friends. These friends can also convey your message to him if you are looking to patch up, after all what are friends for?