You have the right to be really angry with your boyfriend for forgetting your birthday.
Guys are not good with dates; many don’t even remember their own birthdays! Then there are other guys who really don’t place a lot of significance on celebrating birthdays in general. Whatever be the case, it’s definitely extremely careless of him to forget his girlfriend’s birthday.
Most girls are quite enthusiastic about their birthday unlike majority of guys who mostly don’t care much for theirs. But guys and girls alike like to be wished on their birthday and feel happy if they are given a present or a party. So unless he’s extremely forgetful, there is no excuse for him not remembering your birthday.
It can be really hurtful when someone close to you forgets your birthday. It can be equally hurting if your boyfriend does not get you a birthday gift. It could well mean that he’s either too busy with his own life and is losing out on “attraction” towards you or he is just too miserly, it’s usually the former.
What Should You Do?
So what should you do if your boyfriend forgets your birthday?
Let him know that you are really hurt
You don’t have to hide your feelings about him forgetting your birthday. Let him know how bad you felt about him not remembering to wish you on a day which is special to you. It’s important that he realizes what this means to you or else he would repeat the same next year.
Give him “cold” treatment for a week
This may sound really harsh but such carelessness deserves a slightly tough punishment.
Ground him for a week – no calls and definitely no physical intimacy. He is sure to remember your birthday from here on once he experiences the treatment you meted out for his forgetfulness. You don’t have to do this if you don’t want to; after all, you have to go through a tough time too if you miss him.
Ask him to make it up to you
Well, he forgot your birthday, so now he has to make amends. You can make him do anything that you wish under the pretext that he needs to make up for his mistake. Ask him to cook for you or take you out to a holiday spot or anything else that your heart desires.
Celebrate your birthday without him
This is again something you don’t have to do if it ends up spoiling your day, but if you want to show him your anger you can keep him out of your birthday party and celebrate it with your friends and family.
This can have a few repercussions on your relationship, so take a calculated decision on this. Remember that some guys are really forgetful of dates, so it may be a bit harsh on him.
Re-evaluate your relationship
If he has been acting distant and cold lately and forgetting your birthday is just one of the many instances where he has failed to show up for you, then you might want to take a closer look at your relationship.
The fact remains that when a guy really digs his girl he is quite unlikely to forget her birthday. If he’s forgotten your birthday or if he fails to get you a birthday gift, these could well be indications of a failing relationship.
Relationship takes effort and dedication to maintain. Small acts of carelessness can leave the other person feeling hurt and pained especially because the relationship means so much to them.
You can avoid yourself a lot of hurt by reminding your boyfriend of your birthday a day before, just so you don’t feel let down if he has forgotten it. This is especially required if your boyfriend has a problem with remembering dates.