How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out on a Date?

Author: Admin

Most of us have been in a situation where we like someone and are craving for them to ask us out! The the thing is, it can be difficult to get them to do it. If you have a feeling he likes you too, the easiest thing to do would be to take the lead and ask him out yourself.

Drop Subtle Hints

Although traditionally it is the guys who do the asking out, these days girls can initiate the first date too. But if you are really keen to get him to ask you out, you could always drop a few subtle hints. Pay him a compliment when you see him, smile a lot, perhaps mention a movie that you really want to see or spark up a conversation about a new bar or coffee shop.

Dropping hints that you like him might do the trick, however some guys may not even realize you are dropping hints even if they like you; in fact, if they like you, they may be feeling even more scared of possible rejection.

Make Him Feel Comfortable Around You

Remember to be yourself, he is much more likely to go for it if he feels comfortable around you and sees you as you are. Whenever you are around him, talk to him and be flirty, but not too much- keep it casual and easy going. Hopefully he will get the drift and feel more comfortable in asking you out once he suspects you are interested in him.

Why Not Ask Him Out?

There really isn’t much you can do that will guarantee that he will ask you out, but being nice, smiling and listening to him will make him feel that you think he’s a cool guy. The best thing to do is to take the matters into your own hands and suggest going for a drink together casually. This will also show him that you go after what you want and you are confident, a trait that is no doubt extremely attractive!

Remember that he will love being asked out by you! After all, he might be waiting for you to ask him out and someone has to make the first move! Even if he says no, you will have taken the big step and can gloat in having the guts to make a move on him. It’s better to take your chances and go for it than keep on waiting for him! You never know, it may be the start of something fantastic!









  • Vicky

    I remember that my husband was a shy guy himself and he took almost a year to finally ask me out. And it was a magical first date. Both of were so looking forward to it and we had fun talking about all those times were wanted to initiate the date but could not. Just be patient and use your intuition. If you think there is a connection, then it definitely is true. Good luck!

  • JR

    I have done pretty much everything mentioned here and more but no luck. I don’t want to be the one who initiates the date as I don’t want to come across as needy. Also I really don’t think that he is a shy person and hangs out with his friends all the time. So I am assuming that he is just not interested.

  • Tony

    A lot of men today have something called ‘approach fear’, in other words, fear to approach women because they do not want to face rejection. And this fear is going to increase in the future generations of men because of various things that are happening in our society. We cannot help it. One of the main reasons is that girls are so unpredictable. They act all smiles and when you ask them out, they simply reject you on the face. They say, just because I am nice to you and smile around a bit, doesn’t mean I like you. It’s my nature to be nice to people. And I have seen this with quite a few girls.

    Guys on the other hand are very straightforward. If we smile at you, it means we definitely like you and would like to go out with you. It would be so nice if a girl can come up and ask the man out.

  • Rena

    I have been waiting for this guy to ask me out for almost a year now and I don’t know what to do. He seems interested, helps me out, smiles at me every time I see him. I know that he is shy, but if he really likes me, shouldn’t he have asked me out by now?