How to Convince Your Man to Have a Baby?

Author: Admin

Wanting a baby can drive us ladies mad. You have babies on the brain 24/7. You see them everywhere, perhaps you know someone who has one and you just can’t get the thought out of your mind.

But when you mention the idea to you man and realize he really isn’t up for it!

Despite his reluctance, you just cannot stop that feeling. He thinks nappies and sleepless nights, you on the other hand think about tiny toes and baby booties.

So is there anything you can do to convince your man to have a baby?

It may be a bit of a challenge, but there are certainly a few things you can do to make him hear the patter of tiny feet!

There are basically two stages to the process. The first is establishing a dialog of mutual respect and communication. The second is discussing the reasons which may be behind his reluctance.

Let’s have a look at these stages:

Stage 1: Establish the Right Tone for Discussion

At this stage you both know that you want different things.

It is important to establish an open space for discussion where your man can express how he is feeling.

1.) Stay calm and avoid being pushy

Make sure that you remain calm and do not become too pushy. The fact that he is talking about it is already a good step! Be understanding and supportive.

Your man needs to feel appreciated and that his feelings are valid.

2.) Assure him why he would make a wonderful father

Explain to him that you don’t just want a baby, but you want to create a family with him.

It is important to let him know that the reason you want to have babies with him, is because he will make a wonderful father.

Remind him of his good qualities and what he will be able to bring to your child’s life.

3.) Make him feel that you are in this together

Be sure to use the word “us” instead of “I”.

By talking about the issue in this way, he is less likely to think of this as your issue. This means the conversation is likely to be more amicable and it will keep you on the same side.

Despite your difference of opinion, you are still a partnership and this is what you must show him.

Stage 2: Have the Baby Chat

Now that you have begun talking, it’s time to consider the reasons which may be holing him back.

In general there are five reasons that men mention as to why they do not want to have a child.

These are:

1.) He has financial insecurities

Despite the modern climate, most men still feel that they need to support their families. This means your man may not feel able to provide for you and your future child.

#Tip to solve this issue: Establish what your budget is, and if necessary show him that you don’t mind giving up some things. It may be an idea to also start a savings account.

Remember that the fact he cares about this means he wants to be able to support a family. Praise him for being responsible and make suggestions as to what you can do to afford a baby.

2.) He lacks the confidence

It is a good idea to talk about insecurities that he may have about being a parent.

#Tip to solve this issue: Find out what his idea of being a good dad is. It may be that he did not have good relationship with his father or he may be worried about how it will change your relationship.

Remind him that you think the world of him and give examples of why you think he would make an excellent father.

Share your fears about being a parent too and give examples about how you would solve them together as a team.

3.) He fears a change in his lifestyle

Babies change everything and your man may be worried about having to sacrifice things that he enjoys.

#Tip to solve this issue: It is true that sacrifices will have to be made, so acknowledge these and reassure him. Remind him of why these sacrifices will be worth it and the fun experiences you will have.

4.) He is clueless what having a baby entails

If he is a responsible man, he is bound to feel a sense of apprehension not knowing what having a baby entails.

#Tip to solve this issue: Spend time with couples who have children. If you have friends that have small children, spend some time with them and let your man have a bit of an experience of seeing family life.

Perhaps you can offer to baby sit together.

Many men are much keener on the idea once they see their friends or brothers with their kids.

5.) He has a lot left to do on his bucket list

Your man may feel that he has a lot of fun stuff left undone and having a baby will permanently stop him from doing those things.

#Tip to solve this issue: Suggest him that he can do the things you have always wanted to do. Having a baby is a big step and will change your relationship as a couple.

It might be an idea to suggest going on an adventure together before you take the plunge into baby land.

Perhaps a round the world trip together or doing that sky dive he has always been talking about.

Enjoy the time you have left of being just you two!

And finally..

Convincing your man to have a baby may not be easy, so remember to be patient, supportive and understanding.

Give him time to ingest the idea.

Tell him how great he was with his nephew, point out happy smiley dads; but remember to keep it light and do not bombard him with baby talk 24/7.

The most important part is to reassure him, praise him and make him feel understood.

Once your man feels that he will make a great dad and have a lovely family with you will be busy making babies in no time!

  • Fred

    I read your article. But I do have a question for you. Why do guys shy away or change the subject when my wife is talking to me about having kids? I mean it doesn’t make me uncomfortable at all. Just for some reason I end up changing the subject on her. So now she is starting to think I don’t want to have children with her. Can you please help me?

    • Emuu

      Fred, if you find it hard to talk to her about it try writing a letter explaining you feelings about having kids, then sit her down and give her the letter and try and have the discussion after that – make sure there are no distractions, no tv, turn the phone off and tell her to stop you rambling whenever you go off topic!

  • Rebecca

    Thanks for your article. It’s reassuring just to be told that this is a common issue. I feel like I am going nuts I am so broody! My partner is wonderful with our nephews but argues that he feels too young to be a dad and wants to wait until our friends are having children too. On the other hand, at age 29 (we’re the same age) I want to crack on and don’t see why we should follow the example of other couples – someone has to be the first! The thing is I don’t want to need to ‘convince’ him. It’s such a big life decision that it’d be great to feel that we are making the decision together.

  • Pearlyn

    Nice page, it is very idealistic page that I wont heard before. I want to have a baby with my BF. He’s 9 years older than me and I’m only 23. We’re both in a stable job. He’s having his own business so, why he’s not interested to have a baby with me?? We are not married yet, but he’s always saying that “I want you to enjoy you’re life first before we go to that situation. I don’t want you to make ‘PAGSISISi’ later on”. Is he right? Though I’m the one who’s insisting?

  • baba

    well dear you are not alone.
    and he will never be ready
    we women all suffer the same to get to the wedding podium we go through alot in this era of ours. let alone after the podium to make it work till death do us apart.
    but i have come to realize that life is what you make it . men have become selfish wanting more from us even though they offer little or nothing.
    am married and happy today not because he came to his senses or i finally met the right one but it was because i decided to think out of the box and made him the right one for me.
    ooh yes it was not because of my hard work i put in to do everything he wanted, or changing from who iam into someone else but i added a little spark or irk into our love by using a love spell which made him to stay because i loved him and he loved me but he was not committing i felt like i was loosing him. i mean we had already two kids my life had changed into a mother but his was the same living his life the same. oooh how selfish but its all thanks to this man baba musa . at first it was difficult to decide but he talked to me advised me before we started everything and its the best decision of my life am happy and my to that healer baba musa just for advise its free with him his email is or girls stop being heart broken waiting for someone to change your life you have the keys to your car drive it or you will always be late