Top 10 Nicknames Men Love
What Men Find Attractive in a Woman
Body Language of Men - How to Tell if He Likes You?
Birthday Gift Ideas for Boyfriend
10 Signs a Man is in Love Is Your Man Love Shy? How to Appear Approachable to Guys Is Your Boyfriend Cheating?
How to Convince Your Man to Have a Baby?Written by Iva Dragostinova
It may be a bit of a challenge, but there are certainly a few things you can do to make him hear the patter of tiny feet! There are basically two stages to the process. The first is establishing a dialog of mutual respect and communication. The second is discussing the reasons which may be behind his reluctance.
Stage 1- Establishing the Tone for DiscussionAt this stage you both know that you want different things. It is important to establish an open space for discussion where your man can express how he is feeling.
Stage 2- Having the Baby ChatNow that you have begun talking, itís time to consider the reasons which may be holing him back. In general there are three reasons that men mention as to why they do not want to have a child. These are:
Financial SecurityDespite the modern climate, most men still feel that they need to support their families. This means your man may not feel able to provide for you and your future child. Establish what your budget is, and if necessary show him that you donít mind giving up some things. It may be an idea to also start a savings account. Remember that the fact he cares about this means he wants to be able to support a family. Praise him for being responsible and make suggestions as to what you can do to afford a baby.
ConfidenceIt is a good idea to talk about insecurities that he may have about being a parent. Find out what his idea of being a good dad is. It may be that he did not have good relationship with father or he may be worried about how it will change your relationship. Remind him that you think the world of him and give examples of you think how would make an excellent father. Share your fears about being a parent too and give examples about how you would solve them together as a team.
Change in LifestyleBabies change everything and your man may be worried about having to sacrifice things that he enjoys. It is true that sacrifices will have to be made, so acknowledge these and reassure him. Remind him of why these sacrifices will be worth it and the fun experiences you will have.
Some Other Tips that May HelpDo the things you have always wanted to do- Having a baby is a big step and will change your relationship as a couple. It might be an idea to suggest going on an adventure together before you take the plunge into baby land. Perhaps a round the world trip together or doing that sky dive he has always been talking about. Enjoy the time you have left of being just you two!
Spend time with couples who have children- If you have friends that have small children, spend some time with them and let your man have a bit of an experience of seeing family life. Perhaps you can offer to baby sit together. Many men are much keener on the idea once they see their friends or brothers with their kids.
Convincing your man to have a baby may not be easy, so remember to be patient, supportive and understanding. Give him time to ingest the idea. Tell him how great he was with his nephew, point out happy smiley dads; but remember to keep it light and do not bombard him with baby talk 24/7. The most important part is to reassure him, praise him and make him feel understood. Once your man feels that he will make a great dad and have a lovely family with you will be busy making babies in no time!
Comments Temporarily Closed.